The 5 Best Things I Did For Myself This Week

July 25, 2016 Thoughts

sore eyesToday is a really good day.  I feel fantastic.  Two weeks ago was a completely different story.  I felt bad.  I had incredibly sore eyes.  I was feeling down, bit depressed and being very hard on myself for some of the circumstances of my life.

1. I knew I had a problem but I just wasn’t sure what it was.  The first good thing I did for myself was to not assume that my sore eyes were just a medical problem.  I looked up what sore eyes meant in a spiritual sense.  My particular complaint meant that I was not liking what I saw about myself.  Ok so my bad week was about me and how I was perceiving myself.  Something to think about.

2. Second best thing I did for myself was to listen to my daughters have a vent and allowed myself to vent for a little while.  I had stopped venting, complaining or showing any form of negative stuff because somehow as a Life Coach who knows better I “shouldn’t” be having bad days – let alone weeks.  Load of rubbish.  People go to a coach for an objective listener.   When you are in the middle of your crap you can’t see the wood for the trees and putting on a good show is not the best way to handle the yucky stuff.  A bit of a vent, allowing yourself to be vulnerable and open up to others is a much better way.

Family 3. I went for coaching.  I hadn’t had my own coach for a couple of months so I was stuck back in my own head.  It was so good to talk to an objective 3rd person who could tell straight away that I was being very hard on myself.  That I was not seeing things as a failure of circumstance or a bit of a lesson that needed to be learnt but as “me” being the failure.

4.  I realised that I was putting immense pressure on myself to succeed in a particular way, and in my own timeframe,  which was driving success away.  It was also straining my marriage and how I felt about myself.  I decided to look at the whole thing differently and work out a better way.  I do enjoy when a quote I like comes to life..” When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”  Dr Wayne Dyer.  I had stopped looking at my life in a holistic way.  All I saw was work, business, marketing, sales and how to make more money faster..  blah, blah, blah.  I was losing myself to materialistic stuff which at least at some level goes against everything I believe.

I do not live to work.  I work because I love what I do.  I work because I have a driving passion to help people see themselves in a much better light and to have a life that they love.  I work because I can.  I am also a mother, a wife, a writer, an artist, a sewer, a friend, a person who enjoys going to the gym, a grandmother, a Toastmaster and quite a few others that do not equal a life devoted entirely to work and being a success in financial terms only.  My number 4 good thing I did for myself – I decided to slow down.  Rome was not built in a day and I do not have to build my business at the expense of everything else in my life.

Happy woman No 5:  This last week is all about time spent with the people who really matter to me.  My husband, my daughters, grandchildren, extended family and people who I enjoy being around.  Relationships are important.  Who we are as people can only be known in the context of our relationship with others.  As an introvert I like lots of alone time, yet my best memories, my greatest happiness has always been with others.

The five best things are in no particular order.  They are all equally important.  You cannot change things unless you admit there is a problem and be open to a solution.  Being ok with where you are at right now is important while still allowing that you do want things to grow or get better.  Being kind to yourself in every way is vital.  People who think of themselves as failures cannot succeed.  You can only succeed when you realise that you succeed in so many different ways already.  Every truly successful person, not the ones with just money and fortune who feel crap about themselves, have great relationships with people.  People are the most important thing in their lives.

Do you need help discovering the good things you could be doing for your life today.  Please leave a comment or contact me.

Love and Light

Maryanne