Asking for Help?
When I had the ‘thought’ that I was in a prison of my own making and that I had to change my mind to change my life I turned to books for answers. For the next few years I read and did exercises and implemented the changes that turned my life around. My first moment of ‘asking for help’ was when I contacted The Coaching Institute and started my training to become a coach. I had to learn to actively ask for help; to allow myself to be coached. It was a hard thing to do. I didn’t want others to know how screwed up I was, how scared I was of both failure and success, to admit that I had made quite a few mistakes in my life. I had to do it as part of my training, and I had as much growth in 12 months as I had had in 5 years because I had someone keeping me accountable, alerting me to unproductive limiting beliefs and who noticed, praised and brought out my strengths.
Asking for help can be difficult. We don’t want to expose ourselves to others. We don’t want to admit to vulnerabilities. I am aware now that I need help from you my readers. I know that I am a good coach, that I have both the skills and the experience to turn a life around. Where I do lack is in connecting with others, to understand the hopes and fears, to turn my thinking from what I know I am capable of, to being curious about what are your concerns, fears, worries. What are the things that you want changed in your life and what are you willing to talk about to start that process.
For a number of years I have been a member of Toastmasters and it has been easy to connect with people and to know what they are there for; namely getting over the fear of public speaking. I love encouraging and inspiring people on that journey. The easy part for me is that they come there first and I am part of the experienced group that then does the encouraging and some of the teaching. People come to address a specific need. We were taught in our coaching training that people don’t look for coaches, they are seeking a specific answer to a specific need. What is your need that you are seeking the answers for? Maybe it is in the area of relationships, health and fitness or money and the lack of it.
Maybe it is the fear of asking for help.
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