Being Congruent, Living a Life Consistent With Your Values

September 23, 2016 Thoughts, Uncategorized


small plant survival on the city pavement close to rainwater sinkWhen I first started changing my mind I was severely depressed and life did not seem worth living.  I had to change my mind to survive.  Once I learnt that, I started learning about the joy of living a congruent life.  A congruent life is a life lived consistently with your values.  If family is a top value then why do they only get a bit of your time?  If health is a value then why does your gym membership never get used?

My top values are compassion, kindness and learning.  Working as a life coach I live those three values every single day.  It  allows me to be flexible with my time.  Visiting my ailing mother was more important than getting a blog post out on Monday.   I not only help others live a more meaningful life, a life that is right for them.  I live my life as an example of that.

This week I read about another life coach who has the very bad flu that is going around.  She was encouraged to focus on her clients and basically ignore her flu.  She still served her clients well, regardless of how she was feeling, and she felt great about that.  I personally find it a contradiction.

'take Care Of Yourself' Motivational Watercolor And Lettering DeIf her top values are money and service then maybe it makes sense, yet any life where your own well-being is second to everyone else does not seem right.  We coach others to be the best they can be. To live a life that is full of meaning which includes great self-love and self-worth.  It is taking care of yourself first so you can bring the very best of you to the service of others.  Yes you can put the symptoms, the runny nose and itchy eyes, the brain fog and everything else to one side while you focus intently on your client.  You can give your all in the moment, but is it the best of you?

The best of you is healthy, balanced and joyful.  Sharing the flu virus with your clients is not giving them great service.   Taking care of yourself first, giving your body and brain the rest it needs is a great example to give to clients.  By your example you show them they do not have to be a slave to others expectations.  It is not the end of the world if they look after their own health.

Living a congruent life, a life lived consistently with the values that we say are important to us, is giving the best of ourselves at all times.

What do you think?  Please let me know in the comments below.

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