How Being Grateful and Tolerant Improves Your Happiness
Why Change Starts With You
The one emotion that everyone says they want more of is happiness. I just want to be happy!! Many believe that being able to buy the newest, biggest thing to hit the market will provide that happiness. That feeling usually only lasts a few days at most. Some believe that finding the perfect partner, or getting the perfect job will provide the happiness they seek. All these things are external and therefore are neither permanent or under your control. The only lasting happiness is that which comes from within. Being grateful and tolerant are two emotions that can increase happiness.
I hear people say that they are good enough, and in the next breathe go onto complain about all that is wrong in the world. They want to be happy but see happiness as something external to them. They want others to change so that they can feel happy. Happiness comes from being “the change you want to see in the world.” Ghandi
A Happy person is a grateful person. When we are grateful for everything in our lives we are not focused on what is lacking. Some people are so focused on what is wrong in their lives, they cannot think of anything they are grateful for. These people are more likely to be the moaners and groaners of the world, casting a shadow of pessimism all around them.
When we are able to think about, and be grateful for the good things in our lives, the number of good things grow. An excellent way to start is with a Gratitude Diary. Every day list the things that you are grateful for. Waking up in the morning, your health, family and friends and your pets. Be grateful for a roof over your head, good food, and a sunny day. Appreciate the money in the bank, the car you drive, the clothes you wear and the list goes on and on. As a result your list grows as you become more and more grateful. When you realise how much you do have you will feel the joy and happiness that flows easily from a grateful heart.
If we let go of the expectations and all the should in our lives then we are taking back the control of our emotions to ourselves. I choose to feel good whatever you are doing. Ultimately I have no control over you, only myself so I choose to be happy regardless. I may have a preference that people behave better but I cannot control their behaviour. I cannot control the outcome of their behaviour either. The only thing I can control is how I live my life. Choosing to be polite, non-judgemental, generous, caring, peaceful and happy. I live my life with my values and I do not impose them on anyone else.
Therefore, these two things are the biggest components of being a happier person. All the higher emotions do tie in together, so as one increases they all increase. In the next blog we will look at another emotion that impacts your happiness and has a positive flow on effect.
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