Know What Is Right For You!
I have been getting lots of advice lately, and a lot of opinions on what I should or should not be doing with my time, money, where I live or should live, what I can and can’t afford, basically every part of my life. Some of it is great advice and some of it is coming from other peoples maps with little regard to how I feel or think about things. My reactions have not always been productive, partly because I have dreams of my own that do need to be compromised a little at this time for very good reasons, and partly because in the face of extreme pessimism sometimes it is hard to stay focused on what is right for me.
The number one problem of all the advice and opinions is that it created indecision on my part. I let that stop me in my tracks. I was not moving forward in any productive way because I could not see a clear way forward. I was stopped at the crossroads, waiting for a clear direction or some support from my darling husband. Being stuck in indecision is a bad place to be, it creates frustration, anger, overwhelm and helplessness. I realised that it was better to make a decision, even if it did not please everyone, one that I could see the benefits of, that I knew would be good for my forward movement. It was better to make a decision than to give up altogether. The moment I made the decision synchronicity stepped in.
Instantly all the negative emotions go, it releases energy to move forward in productive ways. Some may see it as selfish to make a decision that is right for you even if it is against the advice, opinions and wishes of others. The way I see it, it is better to make a selfish decision that takes into account the needs of others, rather than to stay stuck in indecision, or worse to give in entirely to some-one else which then creates all sorts of negative emotions which in the long term are much more destructive. You have to do what is right for you to be in a place of being able to support others. We can only give from a full heart, and a place of strength within ourselves. We need to be true to ourselves first before we can be true to anyone else.
“To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man.” William Shakespeare