The Importance of Hearing “I Am Proud of You”

June 9, 2015 Thoughts

Why the statement "I Am Proud of You" is Important Note – this blog post was originally written in June 2015 not long after my father’s death.

For the last two weeks I have been, as my lovely husband described it, – like a zombie. It has been many years since I have been zombie like and I thought that I would not go back to that ever. Sometimes life throws us a curve ball.

Subconscious Beliefs

I discovered I was reliving an old belief, an old pattern.  Many old beliefs and habits had been dissolved while bringing myself out of severe depression.  I was doing things I loved to do, and I thought for all the right reasons.

All my life I wanted my parents, but especially my mum, to be proud of me. I struggled with wanting to be a good girl in her eyes while living my own truth.  The first step in recovering from depression was accepting my mum didn’t understand me, and her religious beliefs held her back from being proud of me.   Much as I want to create a life of love and meaning for myself,  subconsciously I still needed approval. The need for belonging, significance and love from those closest to me, still drove me.  While dad was alive there was still the possibility of one day hearing those encouraging words, I am proud of you.

When he died I lost a prime motivator to do anything.  Why strive to succeed? Why strive to do anything?

What is Your Why?

What encourages you to grow, contribute and make a difference in the world?  If you are not able to touch those closest to you, to share your insight and meaning with them, what belief is required?  How do you know you have a purpose? Do you matter and can you make a difference?  Ultimately, you have to believe in yourself and by living a life of passion and purpose for yourself, impact others.

Have you ever wondered why you do the things you do?   Do you have any insights you would like to share about finding the place of belonging, significance and love that inspired you to keep moving forward always?  Please share in the comments section below.

Love and Light

Maryanne